Expulsion or being asked to leave childcare is a last resort when other forms of discipline and warning have not succeeded in achieving the desired or expected behavior. It is the most severe action a childcare center can take, and can cause a huge upheaval in the child’s life as well as in the daily life of the family. If handled incorrectly, being asked to leave childcare can adversely affect the child’s self-confidence, in addition to his or her cognitive development and learning.
Being Asked to Leave Childcare: Reasons
While it may not always be the best way to handle a problem, asking a child to leave childcare is sometimes the only option a center has. Childcare centers are answerable to other parents and have bills to pay, and a disruptive or violent child or a parent who takes advantage of the system can prove to be a liability for them. A childcare center is within its legal rights to dismiss or ask a child to leave for those reasons. Some such reasons for asking a child to leave childcare are:
Problems with the child
- If the child is violent, abusive, unruly, and destructive or bullies other children for no reason, it can be a source of trouble for others in the group
- In an academically active center, below-average performance and failure to participate can hinder the progress of the class
Problems with the parents
- Parents who demand special treatment or exclusive privileges for a child that are difficult to accommodate within a group could be asked to leave childcare there and find a more suitable center
- Parents who are casual about pick-up and drop-off times or paying fees on a regular basis are viewed as unable to respect the professionalism of the center and may be asked to leave childcare
- Parents who are rude or disrespectful to the caregivers at the center may be asked to leave childcare
Leaving Childcare – Parents’ Tips on Handling a Child
When asked to leave childcare, parents can feel helpless and insecure about their daily routine. It is important to deal with the situation in a manner that your child is not affected or traumatized. Being asked to leave childcare is usually a last resort after warnings have been given before. Dealing with the problem when the first warning signs appear is the best way to avoid a situation in which nobody benefits. However, once asked to leave childcare, parents need to follow some basic steps to ensure the transition is smooth.
1. Understand the reason for being asked to leave childcare. A problem lies in the child’s behavior, not in the child. Children can often act up if they feel insecure, if there are changes at home or at the center that they are uncomfortable with, when scared or ill, or when there is an underlying mental health or developmental problem. Problem behavior as a reaction to one of these causes can be solved if the cause is addressed.
2. Talk to your child about leaving the center. Assure the child that he/she is not being rejected or abandoned, and discover what reaction the child is undergoing.
3. If the child was not the problem, its time to seriously rethink your own behavior. Treating a daycare center as a babysitter is not an option, especially because it frees your time for other work or chores. A childcare center is run by professionals and they should be treated that way. Disrespecting their requirements or the caregivers puts you and your child in a situation that leaves you both worried and upset.
4. Finding a new daycare center is important so that a pattern and routine can be established as soon as possible. In many cases, a child is asked to leave a daycare center if the philosophy of the parents and the center do not match. Look for a center where there is a meshing of principles or methods this time. When assessing a daycare center for potential admission, consider the kind of problems that were faced previously, and check if these are likely to arise here.
1. Childcare Expulsion Prevention Program; Early Childhood Michigan
2. Acting Up, Acting Out: When Young Children Are Put Out of Programs: Childcare Aware
3. Challenging Behavior: Child Welfare League of America