Child Care Guide
Most children can be a little noisy, energetic and sometimes get a little too excited but sometimes just a little too much and this can turn to unruly behaviour and problems especially when in school or child care.
When behavioural problems crop up on a regular basis parents should then begin to suspect whether or not their child has a behavioural problem and also what they can do about it, If it becomes a big problem then schools and day care centers may refuse to take your child until their behaviour improves.
What has an affect on a child’s behaviour?
Your child may not think you are spending enough time with them and by acting out through being naughty this gets your attention, it is important to let your child know that you are there for them and love them but that sometimes you can’t spend the quality time with them that you would like.
Try and set clear rules about behaviour and make sure the child knows that they won’t get what they want just because they throw a tantrum. If you are a two parent family then both partners must stick to the same rules otherwise children will play one parent against the other.
If you are a single parent and your child spends time in day care then make an appointment with the day carer, if the behaviour hasn’t already caused a problem within day care it could soon jeopardise your child’s place in day care.
Talk over with them the rules you set ay home regarding bad behaviour and ask them how they would deal with it in child care.
Some children are more excitable than others and can often be very boisterous but behaviour is usually controllable. Children such as these will take a lot of looking after and need constant stimulation to keep their excitability under control.
Stages of behaviour
Most children will have a tantrum at some stage and these are not generally something to worry about though they can often be loud and particularly embarrassing if you are out in public.
It is important that you remain calm throughout the tantrum and providing your child cannot harm themselves then it is often best not pay too much attention to a tantrum, once your child realises they aren’t going to get what they want through causing a fuss they quickly calm down.
Nurseries and child care minders will be quite used to seeing children having tantrums and will know how to deal with them, however if you have any special preference to how you would like them to deal with your child when in their care then make sure you talk it over with them beforehand.
All children can be naughty to some extent such as writing on walls, fighting with class mates and ignoring requests, this is a general behaviour pattern in growing children. Often behaviour of this kind is limited to isolated incidents or your child will go through a stage of naughtiness.
Behaviour such as this will often be a test to see how you or the child carer will react and how far they can go, sometimes naughty behaviour can be a way of getting attention, if there are a lot of children in the day care center then it may your child’s way of getting attention from the staff.
Day care center staff will have a policy for disciplining children who miss behave and this should be discussed by your child’s carer and yourself. A lot of day care centers will have a quiet area and usually children who persistently misbehave will be taken to the quiet corner for 10 minutes or so giving them a chance to settle down before returning to their class mates.
If your child persistently misbehaves and is causing a disruption in day care then you may be asked to stay with your child for a while and in rare cases children can be removed from day care due to disruptive behaviour especially if other children are threatened.
Getting help for persistent bad behaviour
Occasionally an illness will cause persistent bad behaviour in a child so if the pattern continues or worsens then it is essential you talk with your health visitor or Doctor regarding this.
Your Doctor will be able to rule out any medical causes such as ADHD and suggest ways of dealing with your child’s behaviour problem. There are also support groups where parents with problem children can meet and discuss how they cope with behavioural problems.